By Loni Wise Reiki Master
There is a time within this life when we will each be asked what is true for us. In all reality, this will be asked of us many more times that we might realize. Moment to moment we are being asked all kinds of things which require us to answer with our opinion of something or another. What really came to light in last week’s energy was, how do I answer, or more specifically how do I respond, from my head or my heart? It is a great time of questioning everything that we thought we knew about our family, our friends, our community and most importantly ourselves. I have found myself in the space of what feels like moving against the current in order to do what I feel is best for those around me. Putting my own concern to the side and helping others to feel safe…secure…supported. At what point though, do I step back and realize that I am actually cheating myself of an opportunity to express that concern out of the fear of being accepted. I am also, in a much more subtle way, cheating those around me by not allowing them an opportunity to agree or disagree with an alternate expression, creating a pull of deprivation around choice. If I am not willing to stand up and accept my truth, knowing that I am NOT responsible for anyone else’s response or reaction, then I am depriving us all of an opportunity to grow and expand. While this may sound selfish, it is actually quite a human thing to do and something that can be addressed with daily practice.
It is a challenging thing to approach this time of year and not consider all of the loss, lack, anger, sadness and frustration. Here in the Northwest you lose some of your daylight as the weather cools into winter and most days the onslaught of the much needed rain. With everything moving indoors, it seems the natural progression of our spiritual energy is to bring the focus inside also. Sometimes with the transition from out to in, you can get a little bit lost in the shuffle. There are a lot of things in every direction pulling for your attention, your approval and your consumption. This over-stimulation can cause a huge oversight of the small details that would normally keep you on track. Details that take you out of your consciousness and alter your ability to make clear and concise decisions. If you were feeling this last week you may have been able to see the people, places or things which you give your power to. This act of recognizing where you offer your power to others is a beautiful gift of self-realization. In the very moment you acknowledge that you are giving part of you away, you begin to reverse the process of it leaving and access your inner empowerment.
For those of you who are “givers”, meaning that you offer some form of service to others in this life (teachers, therapists, social workers, light-workers, etc.), you might feel like the needs of those you support would be your first concern, however take a moment and recognize that you cannot support them beyond what you are able to do for yourself. So in other words how are you able to scavenge food for others if you are too weak from not nourishing your body…exactly…you can’t! The same motion applies to world of energy, if you do not feed your soul and heart, you cannot guide others to theirs and if you do not love yourself unconditionally, you will find it difficult to unconditionally love anyone else. This energy of light must come from your heart not your head and for many of you that idea will be tricky, but only because your mind wants to think over and analyze every aspect of why you can justify giving more to someone else than you give to yourself. Maybe the thought of worthiness peeks up, or what you tell yourself you do or do not deserve. Your voice is always allowed to be heard and expressed because you are not responsible for the reactions of others. By honoring your heart and intuition you are giving yourself a chance to embrace the beauty and truth of your existence AND you are offering someone else a chance to see that beauty and truth even if they do not agree with it. It is in these moments that you give each other the opportunity to show up when life is uncomfortable and connect to the differences between each other.
The next time you are unsure if you “should” express your truth, take a beat and ask for a moment to check in. Allow yourself a breath or two to step inside and feel the truth of that moment for yourself. No need to accommodate anyone else, no need to eliminate their energetic input, but simply connect beyond those places on the surface that create a gut reaction from yourself and really grasp your truth. What you have to say matters even when you are the only one who trusts it; after all “A flower doesn’t think about competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms.” Much Love Friends!